Here in my hometown, I am pretty lucky to be surrounded by many amazing women that I truly admire. Some I actually call “Superwomen.” They are moms that I meet at daycare, others I see at work, or in my triathlon club. And finally, some are my very own good friends.
They all have important jobs, are mothers of small children, have time to run marathons, and do triathlons. Many of my friends have adopted kids and have that extra challenge. They are motivated and passionate women, devoted wives, and great mothers who find time to workout and see their friends.
Everything seems perfect.
But it’s not.
I realize now, that we all have something really important in common. It’s not work, parenting or exercise . It is something else that seems to keep us close. What is it?
We never seem able to find the right balance in our lives.
We always struggle because we suffer from doing too much of this or not enough of that. We work too much, we don’t have enough time with our kids and most of all, we never have enough time for ourselves or for our husbands. Wow, I was hoping I’d have it together now that I’m 38! Don’t they say that the older you get, the wiser you get?
So now I get it. This is a lifelong question. Depending on what’s going on in your life, you need to adjust that balance. (Hey, I am getting wiser at the minute!)
When my children where 0 to 2 years old, the idea of having a big job with crazy responsibilities and long hours was out of the question. But I loved HR and I didn’t want to stop. So I went through many possible scenarios before I found the “working” balance that I needed at the time. I worked from home as a consultant taking mostly headhunting mandates. Now, my children are 2 and 4 and I want more – so I have adjusted again. Since last November, I’ve been in a HR Director role in a smart company. I started 3 days a week and progressively turned full time.
So, you can find something that works but the balance can tip over any time with the life challenges we face every day. It’s an ongoing challenge and it’s in every part of our lives.
This summer, I was training like a mad woman in preparation for 2 triathlons I had planned to do and my life balanced tipped over. I did too much and got myself over worked out. It took me a whole month to get over it and that doesn’t make me proud. My husband and children where the ones to suffer the consequences – they had a mother and wife who was tired, cranky and impatient.
Well well, I guess that’s what life is all about – rocking the boat but trying desperately to not tip it over. I think that women around the world all have this challenge.
When do we need to see the big flashing lights in our bodies saying, “Can you please press the OFF button now and just stop this craziness? Relax and enjoy – it’s your life after all!”
My question to you today is – do we want too much of life?