Sometimes I feel I fight a lonely uphill battle against the “every one is a winner” parenting philosophy. My generation tends to raise our children instilling the lesson that they can do anything, there are no losers and that mediocrity wins trophies. I heard a father being scolding by another dad for yelling, “Go!” to his daughter on the soccer sidelines (apparently there is some “no verb” rule), our school’s fifth grade girls’ basketball team parent assigned two “snack moms” per game (one for each half lest a child goes 30 minutes without string cheese) and I know an 11-year-old boy who can’t ride a bike.
Gen X’s in HR know all about the Gen Y’s. We read about them, discuss how to manage them and try to understand the challenges therein. You would think we would pay attention to all that while bringing up the next workforce wave.
I believe that kids should do their own school projects, I believe that 12-year-olds can trick or treat without their parents and I believe that we all lose sometimes. I hope our kids gain independence and I hope they will acquire skills to accept defeat. I hope that they will be manageable and able to cope in business and in life.
Mostly I hope that, as adults, they don’t live at home!