There are no rules to getting ahead. Those rules are a fallacy. There are barriers and there are difficulties, but just like there is no pixie dust that will make you successful, there are no rules that prevent you from doing good things that will make you successful.
I believe real success comes to those who are able to see their shortcomings and their strengths and play to both of these accordingly. It requires an unparalleled level of honesty but the reward is a life that’s far more satisfying and truer to oneself.I am reminded of the many beautiful aspects of womanhood, of the very elements that make us who we are.
As a gay man, I am often confused by the notion of striving for equal rights. It is not the equal part that is confusing. It is the striving.
On one hand, there is a need to identify with a cultural brand, e.g. gay. On the other hand, there is a quest for rights that everyone else has. With that, is also a quest for opportunities, and the subsequent success and power that others possess. Each of us decides our own definition of success and power. Take charge of yourself, create your own definitions of success and power, and be the captain of your own ship.
The fact is, women apologize far more often than men. And we apologize for different reasons, often to convey sympathy rather than responsibility. Care less. Apologize less. Or at least count the number of times you say, “I’m sorry,” compared to your male peers. Let people take responsibilities for their own mistakes. It won’t kill them.
As the year winds down, we are in the midst of making lists, checking them twice and planning for the holiday season. While our immediate sights are set on the weeks ahead, we are also looking into 2012
I’m beginning to get a little nervous for my husband’s generation of men. It is scary to think that his generation is the last of those men who were brought up to behave in a chivalrous manner. I like chivalry. It is polite and helpful.