This is the fifth post in a series where Women of HR writers share their thoughts and reactions to a manifesto, Six Rules Women Must Break In Order to Succeed.
Lisa sent out a request I was really excited about: “Write a post about breaking rules to get ahead.” Oh yeah, since it is for Women of HR, it would be good if the rules were ones that women should break.
I thought “Fantastic, I am a female CEO in technology and HR. I should be able to come up with a bunch of those.”
I am stuck! Not just a little stuck, I am stuck a lot. I have been pondering this post for at least a month. I have put time on my calendar to work on it. I can’t come up with a single rule, real or imagined, that has gotten in the way of my moving ahead.
The economy? Yes, that has been a barrier a few times in my life. Competition? Only occasionally have they gotten in my way. They mostly just annoy me and shock me. Slow growth? Rocket growth? Yes, these have both gotten in the way of doing some things successfully.
But I can’t find any rules.
I thought I had completely failed to be of any help on a blog post that I thought surely I could share some wisdom to help others get ahead. I was going to quit and tell Lisa I failed her – then I realized the pearl I have to give.
Those of us that do big things don’t let rules get in our way.
We realize there are no rules to getting ahead. Those rules are a fallacy. There are barriers and there are difficulties, but just like there is no pixie dust that will make you successful, there are no rules that prevent you from doing good things that will make you successful.
Knock that rules concept out of your head and you will find that progress is much easier. Every one of you has achieved something big or had accomplishments you are proud of. When you look back at the path to those achievements, I bet you can’t come up with a single rule you had to break. They were not there messing with your mind. That is how you succeeded.
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